Archive for the ‘Modern & Youth Issues’ Category

What does Sikhi say about the Darwins theory does it believe in the concept of how the human came to the world?

I came to know that Sikhi says: pehilaa paanee jeeo hai jith hariaa sabh koe || “First, there is life in the water, by which everything else is made green.” But does the Sikhi reject Darwins theory?   Sikhi favours Darwin’s theory which is based on natural selection, struggle for existence and survival of the fittest. […]

If killing living beings is a sin then is killing pest and insects also considered as a sin?

  In Gurmat there is no act within itself that is sin (paap) or virtuous (punn). For example, everyone regardless of religion would argue that killing human beings is sinful. However, Guru Sahibs fought in wars against tyranny and killed the people attacking and we consider this virtuous. It is considered virtuous because it was […]

I feel suicidal and lost interest life. Can you help me, as I don’t want to lose my Sikhi?

We are very concerned about you after hearing from you.  First thing to realize is that you are not alone in this. We, and other Gursikhs and Sangat, are here for you. We may not be able to understand exactly how you feel, but we care for your well-being and want to help in anyway […]

How can stop my mind from being troubled by sexual thoughts?

Lust is one the five thieves which robs us of the ‘Amrit’ (spiritual life) inside of us. Lust or uncontrolled sexual desire is one of the five evils that Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji warns us about time and time again. Out of the five vices (lust, anger, greed, attachment, and pride), lust affects us […]

What is the reality of Muslim men sexually grooming non-Muslim young girls?

  Grooming refers to racially motivated sexual exploitation. The UK Sikh community has been concerned about this issue since the early 1990s. Recently, the mainstream UK media has highlighted the successful arrests of men from Pakistani origin in Rochdale, Oxford and some other cities. Judge Gerald Clifton, who heard the case of the Rochdale grooming […]

How can we show respect to Gurbani when using a laptop, MP3 player or smart phone?

ਬਾਣੀ ਗੁਰੂ ਗੁਰੂ ਹੈ ਬਾਣੀਂ ਵਿਚਿ ਬਾਣੀਂ ਅੰਮ੍ਰਿਤੁ ਸਾਰੇ || ਗੁਰੁ ਬਾਣੀਂ ਕਹੈ ਸੇਵਕੁ ਜਨੁ ਮਾਨੈ ਪਰਤਖਿ ਗੁਰੂ ਨਿਸਤਾਰੇ|| “The Word, the Bani is Guru, and Guru is the Bani. Within the Bani all the Ambrosial Nectar is contained. If His humble servant believes, and acts according to the Words of the Guru’s Bani, then […]

Why do Sikhs cut their nails, when they cannot cut their hair?

Some people wonder that if cutting hair is acting against the Will of God, then is not cutting nails also acting against the Will of God? The following explanation shows why it is necessary to cut nails. If man reflects on the workings of his body, he will find that excretion of waste and dead […]

What is the Sikh view of following fads and fashion?

An ordinary man lives his life superfluously, seldom pondering deeply into the meaning and purpose of life. He lives his life uninvestigated. As a biological being, he eats, drinks, plays, works, sleeps, and reproduces. This cycle continues throughout his life. Man, being social in nature, likes to interact with others. To fulfil his need of […]

“If Sikhs are allowed to wear a Kirpan because it is part of their religion, then is it okay for me to wear a gun and say it’s part of my religion?”

This question is often asked or put forward to Sikhs by non-Sikhs who feel it is unreasonable for the law to allow Sikhs to wear the Kirpan and those who don’t understand the significance of a Sikh wearing the Kirpan. The simple answer to the question is ‘Yes’. If a Sikh is allowed to wear […]

Is it okay for a young person to give up on education and pursue Sikhi instead?

Why should one bother to live the lifestyle of a Sikh?

Can a Sikh go to places like clubs, pubs and bars?

This is a vital and important subject for discussion. Guru Sahib has blessed us with such Saroop (appearance) that can’t hide even in hundreds of thousands of people. A Sikh of the Guru stands out because of his hair, beard, turban and dress. These outwardly signs of Khalsa are not such that can be removed […]

What is the Sikh attitude to music?

Music is an interesting thing. It has an effect on us. It also has a tendency to stay in our minds. If you listen to something, it will stick in your mind. If you listen to Gurbani Shabads, you will notice they will go through your mind automatically. Same goes with manmukh (contrary to the […]

What is the Sikh attitude to divorce?

Sikhi favours family life and monogamy. ਏਕਾ ਨਾਰੀ ਜਤੀ ਹੋਇ ਪਰ ਨਾਰੀ ਧੀ ਭੈਣ ਵਖਾਣੈ ॥ “Be faithful to your ‘one wife’, see others as your daughters and sisters, (for women you must be faithful to one husband and see others as your sons and brothers)” (Bhai Gurdaas Ji, Vaar 6: Pauri 8.) Marriage is […]

What is the Sikh attitude to contraception and family-planning?

Gurbani advises to live in ‘Sehaj’ – a balanced and intuitively poised lifestyle. Sehaj is advised with everything in life, whether it be food, sex, sleeping or work. ਬਹੁ ਸਾਦਹੁ ਦੂਖੁ ਪਰਾਪਤਿ ਹੋਵੈ ॥ ਭੋਗਹੁ ਰੋਗ ਸੁ ਅੰਤਿ ਵਿਗੋਵੈ ॥ ਹਰਖਹੁ ਸੋਗੁ ਨ ਮਿਟਈ ਕਬਹੂ ਵਿਣੁ ਭਾਣੇ ਭਰਮਾਇਦਾ ॥੭॥ “For one’s excessive indulgences, one receives […]

What is the Sikh attitude to Euthanasia?

Sikhs would not encourage euthanasia as it is God who gives and takes life. ਜਾ ਆਏ ਤਾ ਤਿਨਹਿ ਪਠਾਏ ਚਾਲੇ ਤਿਨੈ ਬੁਲਾਇ ਲਇਆ || “They come when the Lord sends them; when the Lord calls them back, they go.” (Ang 907) Suffering is part of human life and has a place in God’s scheme. Sikhs […]

What is the Sikh attitude to homosexuality?

Anyone is welcome to become a Sikh, including those with homosexual orientation. However, to act upon homosexual tendencies would not be in line with Sikh tradition and code of conduct. No one can force religion or religious code on anyone. However, no one has a license from the Guru to justify their own personal habits, […]

What is the Sikh attitude towards masturbation?

Lust or uncontrolled sexual desire is one of the five evils that Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji warns us about time and time again. Masturbation, also referred to as Self-Sex, involves lustful thoughts that inspires or encourages more sexual thoughts and acts, and is therefore not appropriate for a Sikh to engage in. This is […]

What is the Sikh attitude towards friendship with the opposite gender?

Friendship with the opposite gender is not prohibited. However, to go beyond the lines of innocent friendship would be contrary to Gurmat. ਪਰ ਤ੍ਰਿਅ ਰੂਪੁ ਨ ਪੇਖੈ ਨੇਤ੍ਰ ॥ “With your eyes, do not even gaze (in a lustful manner) upon the beauty of another.” (Sukhmani Sahib, Ang 274) ਦੇਖਿ ਪਰਾਈਆਂ ਚੰਗੀਆਂ ਮਾਵਾਂ ਭੈਣਾਂ ਧੀਆਂ […]

What is the Sikh attitude towards organ donation?

Sikh philosophy and belief place a great deal of importance on generosity and putting others before oneself. Sikhism also stresses noble deeds, and one would be hard-pressed to identify a more noble act than organ donation. Sikhs generally accept brain death as an indication of the departure of life from a body. The body is […]

What is the Sikh attitude towards abortion?

Abortion is a taboo. Deliberate miscarriage and abortion is forbidden. There is a misconception amongst some Sikhs that the soul enters the body on 120th day. This belief is not supported by Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji. According to Gurbani the soul dwells in the mother’s womb for 10 (Indian) months. ਬਿੰਦੁ ਤੇ ਜਿਨਿ ਪਿੰਡੁ […]

There are so many Rehats. Which do I follow? Does it matter which Rehat I choose to follow?

Whether you follow SGPC published rehat, “Akhand Kirtani Jatha (AKJ) rehat”, or “Damdami Taksaal (DDT) rehat”, 95 percent of rehat is the same. It’s just small differences here and there that Guru Sahib willing will wrinkle out in due time. The minimal rehat (code of conduct) that we should all adhere to and not negate […]

What is the future of Sikhi?

The Sikhs in glorious past have had long periods of persecution and suffering. Their faith in the Gurus and God, and an awareness of the need for voluntary community service made them face cheerfully, many ordeals. The 18th century witnessed the genocide of the Sikhs, particularly at the two holocausts of 1746 and 1762 called […]

What is the Sikh attitude towards Yoga?

The Sikh Gurus did not condemn Yoga. But, Yoga cannot be counted as a required ingredient in what makes a Sikh. Anyone who disputes this should first examine the history of the Ten Masters, or study Gurbani, like: ਪਾਠੁ ਪੜਿਓ ਅਰੁ ਬੇਦੁ ਬੀਚਾਰਿਓ ਨਿਵਲਿ ਭੁਅੰਗਮ ਸਾਧੇ ॥ ਪੰਚ ਜਨਾ ਸਿਉ ਸੰਗੁ ਨ ਛੁਟਕਿਓ ਅਧਿਕ ਅਹੰਬੁਧਿ […]

What is the advantage of being a ‘Sardar’ in this world of fashion?

What is beauty and what is fashion? It is all subjective. A Sikh does not submit to any power or fashion. A Sikh submits and pleases only Akaal Purakh. A pig has many children and walks around cities and villages but finds no respect or dignity. However, a lion, although alone and might only have […]

What is the Gurmat perspective on tying one’s beard and using gel?

Tying the beard is not a Sikh tradition. The fact that a lot of Sikhs tie beard or that a lot of Sikhs in the past have been tying their beard does not make tying beard a Gurmat Asool (principle). Just because the majority does it does not mean that it is acceptable to Guru […]

What should a woman do if she disturbed by abnormal and excessive facial hair but wants to live by Gurmat?

Everyone, irrespective of gender, has facial hair. Men have more longer and visible hair, and females have a smaller amount facial hair which is less visible. Therefore, contrary to what the media and fashion driven propaganda, women do have facial hair and it is perfectly normal. However, if a woman has ‘health concern’ of having […]

What do you know of ‘Sanatan Sikh Shastar Vidiya’?

‘Sanatanism’ (pronounced “Sa-naa-tan”) or ‘Sanatan Sikhi’ is a perspective on the Sikh faith and people which in recent years has been propagated in the UK by Nang (fake imposter ‘Nihung Singh’) Nidar Singh, a martial arts teacher who calls himself a ‘Sanatan Sikh Shastar Vidiya Gurdev’, and his young influenced followers. Sanatan, literally means ‘traditional’. […]

What is the legal standing on Sikhs wearing the Kirpan?

The Kirpan (Punjabi: ਕਿਰਪਾਨ, kirpān) is a religious sword worn in a strap that enables a it to be suspended near one’s waist or tucked inside one’s belt. It must be worn by all initiated Sikhs (Khalsa), after a mandatory religious commandment given by Guru Gobind Singh Ji (the tenth Sikh Guru) in 1699 CE. […]

What is the Sikh attitude towards Tattoos?

All Sikhs get Tattoo imprinted at least once a lifetime. Once this Tattoo is imprinted or encarved, then it never leaves us. Yes, you read it right. All Sikhs must have the Tattoo of Naam imprinted on their Mann. This Tattoo of Naam is not a dead Tattoo picture as ordinary Tattoos are. This Tattoo […]

How can I control my anger?

Anger is a normal reaction when we have been insulted, hurt or treated unfairly. By learning to control our anger we can use it to play a positive role in our lives. KEEPING YOUR COOL! Anger, known as ‘Krodh’, is one of the Panj Chor (Five Vices), that robs the individual of their peace and […]

How does a young person find a marriage partner without dating? What is the Gurmat way?

According to Sikh tradition, a boy and girl are introduced to one another or the idea of marriage is facilitated by a middle-person known as “bacholaa” or “match-maker”. The match-maker could be a friend, family member, member of local Sangat, or an elder Gursikh. The main thing is that there should be a middle person […]

We are not supposed to get “intimate” with the opposite gender. Where do you draw the line?

The issue is about showing respect and not viewing others in a wrong manner. Guru’s Rehatnama states: ਪਰ ਬੇਟੀ ਕੋ ਬੇਟੀ ਜਾਨੈ ॥ ਪਰ ਇਸਤਰੀ ਕੋ ਮਾਤ ਬਖਾਨੈ ॥ ਅਪਨੀ ਇਸਤਰੀ ਸੋ ਰਤ ਹੋਈ ॥ ਰਹਿਤਵਾਨ ਗੁਰੁ ਕਾ ਸਿੰਘ ਸੋਈ ॥ “Consider another’s daughter as your daughter. Consider another woman as your mother. Love only […]

Can Sri Dasam Granth be installed parallel to Sri Guru Granth Sahib Ji?

A Sikh journalist recently wrote an article which highlighted the rule written in the Panthic Rehat Maryada that no book is allowed to be installed parallel to Guru Granth Sahib Ji. However, the author of that article justified Dasam Granth being Parkaash (installed) next to Guru Granth Sahib Ji at Takht Sri Hazoor Sahib and […]

Can I show my love for my girlfirend by us kissing each other? We have no intention for sex. Please help.

—– Kissing & Hugging someone intimately —– If you wish to kiss your friend’s shoes then fine, but nothing else. Kissing (especially on the lips) creates a bond that is very similar to sex. The first man a woman kisses this way will be in her mind for the rest of her life. That’s how […]

I am young, overweight, and feeling depressed about my body. Please help.

EATING PLAN & EXERCISE You should go to your doctor and come up with a plan for exercising. It’ll be something along the lines of running/jogging/swimming for 3-5 days out of the week for maybe 20 minutes the first few weeks. Around the 3rd week or so, increase to 25 minutes, and keep running for […]

How can I stop flirting? I have a bad habit of talking too much with girls and flirting.

Open your mouth and recite the name of Waheguru. You are bored and need to give your soul more attention. Study the lives of the Guru’s and see how they applied themselves. Study Gurbani, kirtan, and sing and enjoy your voice in devotion. Seriously! Then you will put your mouth to the best use and […]

How do I find my future spouse? I am confused considering we can’t have girlfriends.

‘ASSISTED MARRIAGE’ INSTEAD OF ‘LOVE MARRIAGE’ Marriage is a sacred event, it is meant to connect two souls as one and is the paramount relationship in anybodies life. There seems today to be a lack in that sacredness in marriage. The reason for this is that so many people today are getting married for emotional […]

What is the Sikh view on having Girlfriends and Boyfriends relations?

Gurbani says: ਪਰ ਤ੍ਰਿਅ ਰੂਪੁ ਨ ਪੇਖੈ ਨੇਤ੍ਰ ॥ “With your eyes, do not even gaze (in a lustful manner) upon the beauty of another.” (Sukhmani Sahib, Ang 274) Creating such relationships is very immoral and immodest thing to do. Perhaps, we see no shame in these things, it is the age of Kal (darkness) […]

I hear a lot of different opinions and interpretations of Sikhi. How do I know which is true or not?

When many begin their journey into Sikhi, they have to trudge through all the various controversial issues, divisive interpretations, rehit maryadas etc. However, the learning point for some people is that they should have learnt Gurmukhi and connected with the Shabad Guru right at the very beginning and given their mind the only true support […]

Is Dasvandh for the Panth only, or is it for general charity as well. Is Tax paid to the govt considered as Dasvandh?

Dasvandh (lit. ‘tenth part’) is the practice of contributing one-tenth of one’s earning to the Guru’s cause and for the Panth’s institutional development. Taking out dasvandh is a religious injunction, and deciding upon its use requires seeking Guru’s mandate and acting accordingly. Though not exclusive to Sikhs, but unlike charity, dasvandh is based on the […]

What is the Sikh view on Sperm Donation?

Sperm donation is the name of the provision (or ‘donation’) by a man, known as a sperm donor, of his semen with the intention that it be used to achieve a pregnancy and produce a baby in a woman who is not the man’s sexual partner and with whom the man does not have sexual […]

What is the Sikh attitude to dancing?

Sikhs were given the name ‘Singh’ by Guru Gobind Singh Ji, the Tenth Guru. ‘Singh’ means lion. Where all other animals can be made to accept slavery and made to dance in circus’ or zoos, a Singh/lion will never accept slavery and can never be made to dance. If one calls themselves a Singh of […]

What is the Sikh attitude towards blood donation or blood transfusion?

Fundamentally we must understand that blood is blood. Guru Ji says: ਬਿਸਟਾ ਅਸਤ ਰਕਤੁ ਪਰੇਟੇ ਚਾਮ ॥ ਇਸੁ ਊਪਰਿ ਲੇ ਰਾਖਿਓ ਗੁਮਾਨ ॥੩॥ ਏਕ ਵਸਤੁ ਬੂਝਹਿ ਤਾ ਹੋਵਹਿ ਪਾਕ ॥ ਬਿਨੁ ਬੂਝੇ ਤੂੰ ਸਦਾ ਨਾਪਾਕ ॥੪॥ “You are just excrement, bones and blood, wrapped up in skin – and yet you are taking such pride […]

What is the Sikh attitude to inter-faith marriages?

In order to have a Muslim marriage, the Nikkah, both man and women should be Muslim. In order to have a Christian wedding at a Church, most Christian Churches would expect the couple to be both Christian and some even attend Church to show commitment to the faith. The same goes for Jews. However, when […]